I really hate this wedding guest list thing.
Wait. Let me back up. Dan and I attended a semi-small wedding this summer and agreed that it was the perfect size. So we didn't look for huge banquet halls for our reception- we looked at small family-owned vineyards. We love the vineyard we have choosen and are really looking forward to having a quaint wedding there. But that means we can only invite 100 people.
I want to invite everyone I know.
I want to invite my entire family (3rd, 4th, 5th cousins, their parents, etc.- My family really does keep in touch with them all!)
I want to invite eveyone I am friends with.
I have a really big family, and Dan's isn't small either. When Dan and I listed the people in our immediate families, we already had around 75 people- and that certainly wasn't everyone. That leaves about 25 spaces for friends for both of us combined. Wow- that's not much! I know that even if we were inviting 300 guests, or 500, I would still be wishing I could invite more, so I basically just need to suck it up and narrow things down.
Bottom Line: There are going to be some people I really care about who I won't be able to invite. I suppose that's how these things go. I just hope no one holds too big of a grudge.
Has anyone else had to make a guest list for a small wedding or civil union? Any advice?